Thursday, August 23, 2012

Death (of relationship) by a thousand cuts

I was reading Raising Caliban tonight (http://raisingcaliban.blogspot.com/search?
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and she talked about abuse by a thousand cuts:

"Is this abuse? It sure is crazy-making. And it is this
twisting of the terms of reality that narcissistic parents
have perfected that does so much damage to their children.
 These are just a very few examples of thousands of instances
in which reality is twisted, denied, revised, and I am 
gaslighted by the rest of the clan. Abuse by a
thousand cuts, perhaps."

She was talking about her Nparents in this post, and my
Nmother was an expert at this type of abuse - lots of
sniping, cutting people down with snide remarks, 
gossiping and lying about family, neighbors, etc. ,
but the WWW and her Flying Monkeys have perfected
this abusive technique and are even better at it than my
Nmother was - and she was good!  It's amazing 
how many years  I put up with abusive, degrading,and just
plain rude remarks from my NFOO - and then at my Nmother's
death, it all just clicked - the last cut was just that -
the last cut.  The relationships died - they had 
been weak and sickly for decades due to the constant abuse,
but the thousandth cut finished them off.  And in my mind,
they are buried deep - there is no resurrection possible
since the blood has been drained from them over years and
years of malicious cutting.  And my spirit is free!

                              























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